She was insidious the way she came into her life, all sweetness, light and Christianity. Boy this former friend of a friend has thought me a valuable lesson when it comes to letting anyone into my life. It is looking more and more like relationships are very transient amongst some sisters these days, as they can easily give it all up as they systematically work on destroying another’s life or as the case may be – get into another sisters man’s boxer shorts or wallet.
Take Sophia* going through a rough patch, having recently split from her partner of 5years with whom she has two children (yep you got it right – a single mama). This was a relationship that was fraught with problems, and it was inevitable that it would come to an end, but who knows it may have worked out if it wasn’t for external interference. As splits go, it was a messy one.
Sophia* took May* into her life, she supported her [May*] when she too went through a rough breakup. Her loyalty was unquestionable – she gave financial assistance, was non-judgemental, gave emotional support whenever she was called upon. Little did she know that the little twerp of a friend had always had her eye on her man. Now before you start thinking that it was an Angelina Jolie / Brad Pitt/ Jennifer Aniston situation here, no it wasn’t – it was worse than that. This woman brings a whole new meaning to the phrase green snakes on green grasses not been dangerous compared to venomous cobras [she is the former] as they are assumed unthreatening. Give me a cobra any day, at least that way I know where I stand!
May* bid her time and stepped in [uninvited] into Sophia’s and UD’s* marital spat. Unbeknown to Sophia* whom had requested that May* not get involved in the dispute, behind her back, May* initiated contact with Sophia’s partner via the social network site (Facebook), that has seen many cheating scoundrels caught with their pants around their ankles and their bits angrily looking to poke any available moist hole that they can find. I digress – she made contact with UD* unbeknown to her mate and filled his head with rubbish over a five month period. So much damage was done by this wicked Jezebel, but the most painful was that she somehow managed to convince UD to stop paying the amicable child support that he once did, but it gets more scandalous – he has now boarded up at her place and according to rumours they would be getting hitched soon!
Now ladies – I only tell this true tale of my friend’s woes as I believe that there is a lesson to be learnt by all. Do the following to ensure that the same faith does not befall you, and most importantly that you do not have any negative energy vampires hanging in your life.
- Never ever discuss your marital affairs with your so called best friend. If you are married to him, then he is your best friend and should be the person that you talk to when you’ve got a bone to pick. Chinese whispers have a funny way of being used as lethal weapons. If you see a future with him then keep schtum.
- Never ever ever ever (how many times?) invite your friend to spend nights or a night at your crib. Such close proximity between your partner and the she-devil could breed unnecessary intimacy. She/he might be prone to a desire to discuss your marital issues, and even worse still, she might like the same football team that he supports. And if your luck doesn’t hold, there may be a game on Sky Sports on the day that she crashes at yours.
- You should have the antennae for discernment chipped into your brain cells. Learn how to smell out the bullshit merchants who claim to be what and who they are clearly not. My personal tip: If they sound too good to be real, then they are too good to be real. No one will ever love you more than you do you. So all that “you are so great”, “you are so this”, “you are so that” – is just prep starter work before, she starts on the main course and obviously you won’t be there when it’s time to serve the desert. WHY? Because she would be sharing that chocolate cake on your sheets, in your bed, WITH your man, in your crib!
- Make a note to yourself and start now (I mean right now) to weed out the leeches that you may have in your life already.
Now you betrayers, this one’s for you Gwen Macrae’s (Girlfriends Boyfriend). Play the link, you know you want to – COWS!