Why did I keep falling for men that were so not right for me? What was it that I needed to change? Then by chance I came across the idea of circular dating - where you date more than one person at a time, very American. The rule is you can date as many guys as you like at the same time, but keep them on a rotation, (that's where the word circular comes in).

 

The important premise of circular dating is to not get too focused on one guy; which allows you to be open to every guy. Girls, please don’t start planning your nuptials after one good date with one. Take a moment to stop and imagine having several great dates with several great guys over the course of a week. You won’t have the time or energy to obsess about anyone, you'll be having such a good time thus allowing you to remain objective and not rush into anything.

 

I found that this form of dating gives one choices and control over ones normal dating habits and persona. You will also find that as you get to know each guy you discover different things about men that you may not have noticed if you were just dating the one.

 

Mannerisms, attitudes, opinions and your own interaction within male energy will become stronger and clearer; you gain a confidence around men that may have been missing in the past which will enable you to react to things from a position of confident feminine power. You will also flourish and grow in self-esteem - as attracting and holding the attention of more than one guy is really quite a boost to any girl's ego. Not only is this an effective way to find Mr Right but is also a great way to grow as a person, so even if you don't find Mr Right you may find out more about yourself.

 

Recently I have been dating 4 men. I met these guys online, via friends and one of them at a wedding. Trust me ladies there are loads of guys out there. Bearing in mind that my past actions didn’t get a ring on my finger, I have decided to go against type and date guys I wouldn't normally consider.

 

Here’s how….

You start by simply noticing the men around you – in the street, at work, in the supermarket etc. Make eye contact, smile, and notice them noticing you – it works. My only guidelines when choosing a prospective date is that they are clean, have a job and can hold a conversation. You would be surprised at how many men fail to meet these three criteria’s!

 

The dates have all been in public places and my social calendar is exploding. I've been taken to dinners, lunches, concerts, cinemas, walks along the South Bank when it was hot, art galleries, and even out dancing! Sounds like a movie. It has been a social whirlwind which I have thoroughly enjoyed. If you are at a time in your life where you want to change your dating life - try circular dating.

 

Remember:

• Do not see the same guy too many times in a row.
• Do not see one guy more than any of the others.
• Do not have intimate connections i.e. no sex, you can kiss if you want but I would suggest against it as it will lead to other things, and you don't want to progress into anything physical until you are ready to become exclusive with one person.
• Do not let the guys you are dating know about each other.
• Do keep your mind open and free so that you are open to all choices.
• No over thinking, say yes more than no...depending on what's being asked of you.

 

The main point of circular dating is that it is for YOU. It helps you focus on you, raises your self-esteem, and it raises your “attraction” vibes around men. With all of the attention that comes with circular dating you feel easily adored and desirable allowing you to realise you deserve more, thus you will attract more. This type of dating will make you feel good and help you to realise that you have plentiful options so you don't have to settle for the first person that asks you out, someone is right behind him waiting to buy you a drink - let him.